What are they really interested in?
We got used to think about men, as about creatures from another planet, hung up on the sizes of the penis and thinking about sex 390 times per days. In order to fit the erotic status of our sweetheart, we constantly improve our sexual qualification, buy lace undergarment, scarlet lip-stick, think out the scenario of the second (the third, the tenth, etc.) honeymoon and other. But the universal harmony however is as far as the Moon. Now let us put all points above "I" and determine finally: what men are actually interested in.
Initiative
"Initiative is punishable, if it is taken not by a woman". The swingeing majority of men has such opinion. The prospect of being raped by the representative of the gentle sex is enticing to 3-5 percent only. The half of them are workaholics, so hardly devastated by their work, that all they can do after is thoughtlessly watch TV.
Naturally, he will not mind if a woman interposes herself between him and the TV screen, and shows something more interesting, than another episode of the "Hollyoaks". And men who do not refer themselves to the number of workaholics or latent masochists, wait for delicate and ingenious initiative shown by a woman.
For example, if she remembers that it is the 745th (1328th, 29865th...) day since they are together, and suggests to celebrate this significant date in the most unambiguous manner... Or if she goes to bed, having put on only the aroma of her favorite perfumes (of course, a man will find out its nakedness by chance), - the more chaste pyjamas a woman usually sleeps in, the showier it will turn out.
Kunnilingus
The attitude toward the oral sex of the most of the men is quite unambiguous: they all are crazy about it, but... only when performed by woman. If only you try to hint that it would not be bad to turn the tables, as his enthusiasm vanishes immediately. Such "dualism" is typical for 87 percent of men. Lucky women who succeeded to grab the 13-percent minimum enjoy the complete mutual understanding. And the "nihilists" have at least three reasons to deny the kunnilingus:
1. Puritanic education. Obviously, a man was suggested an idea that the genital organs are something indecent, and "games" with them are considered to be almost a crime.
2. Features of mentality. Some men are convinced, that kunnilingus disparages their dignity as of a man.
3. Lack of experience. He might have never done it before, but his partner is already ready to blame him for indifference and callousness!
The first case is practically incurable - the pedagogical errors can hardly be corrected. The second and the third ones are not so hopeless. Basic principle of the "treatment" is the personal example and... giving utterance to the desires. A man is not able to read the thoughts - he waits for his life to be facilitated, by telling what and how is necessary to do. Another way out of situation is the method of "mirror" - a woman does to a man what she would like to be done to her.
Experiments
Oh, they all love them! But under the word "experiments" men usually imply not a bit that women do. Our imagination immediately draws a picture from "9 ½ Weeks" or, at worst, "Basic instinct". Men are mildly interested in the gastronomic, sadomasochistic and any other aspects of sex - theatricalization in general is alien to the majority of them.
The element of unexpectedness is the most important for them. A man is stricken to the inmost of the heart, if a woman keeps her intentions in secret to the very end. For example, she does not put a cup with the ice cubes demonstratively at the bed of love. Or she does not declare something like: "And today let's make believe we're a doctor and a patient". From man's point of view, the value of the sexual experiments is that they do not look carefully crafted and pre-rehearsed.
For fairness' sake it is necessary to mark that 2 percent of men like the experiments in their pure form. It is rather simply to "figure out" those who like it - they usually undertake the organizational part. And you need only to enjoy!
A post-romantic syndrome
What a mercy, that 98 percent of men do not fall in a hysterics from the idea that the fire-spitting passion is inevitably followed by the cooling of feelings! (Together with 98 percent of women who simply run mad from the idea of a post-romantic syndrome, it would have been too much!)
Now the stronger sex takes a philosophical approach to it. Is there no more necessity to hug every minute and to use any suitable moment to strip the clothes off each other? It does not mean that a men do not want the renewal of the former intensity of emotions. They do. But the do it without panic and hysterical fear, that something terrible is going to happen, if immediate "restoration works" do not start. The matter is that men are more sincere in their feelings (and thus, maybe, they are more artless).
What does a woman think about, when she feels that her sexual life is stuck? She usually thinks not about, how badly and sadly she feels, but about, how badly and sadly she will feel, when her miserable man runs away in search of the adrenaline buzz. Alternatively a man, having noticed some slump of "temperature", feels that there is a world harmony, and (by my troth!) heaves a sigh of relief: because no one man can retain a reckless rate for more than 1,5 - 2 months.
Physiology, you know. Therefore the convulsive attempts of the better half to reanimate the sexual relations are poorly responded to by the most of the men. Later it will be important to snatch a moment, when it is necessary to liven up and begin to show the ingenuity. Just be more attentive - to him, to yourselfyou're your feelings and sexual instincts.
Striptease
Do men like striptease-shows? Of course, they have to! In order not to gain the reputation of a pervert, an impotent or "a gay". It was suggested to them, that the real man must enjoy the contemplation of a bare pretty woman, dancing round a pole, that they almost believed in it. Actually, the half of the male population of planet feels themselves rather uncomfortable in the strip-clubs.
The question is not about irresolute meek guys, having their brain freeze at sight of the piercing on a woman nipple. The question is about normal men, strong and bold, whose sexual settings antagonize with the atmosphere of the strip-club - a man can't take away so much competitors round himself.
"L'amour de trois", the sodomy and other "rejections"
The absolute majority of men have a natural necessity to "try everything in their life". Public consciousness (films, literature, television) cultivates this necessity in every way.
A woman has a choice: to let her man to express himself, but remaining aloof from his sexual experiments or get into the act in the process of his becoming "a real man".
Infidelity
95 percent of men are genetically predisposed to the "gallant adventures". It is like a rudiment, inherited from the primitive forefathers: the sacred duty to the mankind - to inseminate as many females as possible. Nowadays there is no necessity of the global insemination, but the reflexes remained.
To try to fight with the polygamous essence of men is the same as to start planting of greenery on the Moon - rather difficult, dangerous... and is it really needed? And then: man's infidelity takes place at the level of genitals, not affecting the feelings and emotion.
Magnificent sex from man's point of view
Good sex is that one, which ends with an orgasm to mutual pleasure of both partners. And magnificent sex... The soul dies and revives, having gone through the ecstatic catharsis, and every organism cell begins to generate so much energy, that it would enough for all hydro-electric power stations of the planet.
Unlike women, restless and doubtful, men perfectly know, how to convert the simply good sex into Not Comparable With Anything Sex. It, like a mosaic, consists of great number of ostensibly insignificant little things, which usually are even unnoticeable. Many of these little things seem to be too simple go by our consciousness.
After a short polling we succeeded to spot four the most important constituents of the magnificent sex.
So, the magnificent sex from the man point of view - is, when a woman...
...doesn't act under a standard and is able to kiss her dear man ... on the small of the back or shin. In general, on any place which in an erotic sense is of no interest for you.
...can allow a man to surprise her - when she is not ready (with the cucumber applications, without a hair-do or just after awakening), she looks absolutely defenceless, and that is why 100 times more desired - a man is inclined to considre the "incompleteness" of the appearance to be a sign of trust.
...does not close her eyes, while making love. Contemplating the passion grimaces of each other, the two feel such a degree of unity, which they never even thought of, and experience not only the physiological orgasm but also the mental one.
...has nothing against "quick" sex. There is a confidence that it is necessary to do it fast otherwise you risk to be eaten, is built deeply into the men, at the genetic level, as an echo of the primitive society.
The modern psychological explanation of the quick sex is the following: at the mad rhythm of life and nervous overstrain a quick variant gives the unbelievable sharpness of feelings and complete orientation on yourself. There is simply no time for such traditional (long) sex "costs" as "If I'm doing correctly?" or "Was it good for him(her)?"!