Think twice before marriage
The destiny extremely reluctantly puts together similar people. The most typical situation is a contrast. She is a mum, he - a kitten. She - a daughter, he is a careful daddy. She - the senior (or favorite) wife, he - strict, but the fair owner of a harem. He gets tired of three places of work, and she wakes up at twelve and fairly believes that she spends all the time cleaning and cooking. Then she throws a plate in the husband's face because it the idiot and he eats because it is tasty. Though, actually, it would be cleverer, that those who are near to us feel happy. It is difficult to us to understand women who allow leaving the man hungry or unsatisfied, hold a couple of acquaintances or leave the husband to caring girlfriend for a while. Men who allow that someone has offended his woman. Men who prefer the Internet to close dialogue with his woman. Men who are not capable to go for the woman on a edge of the world and die smelly bachelors in a room where under a bed dirty socks and bottles roll...
When every woman is going to get married, she certainly dreams about happy family, about the loving and understanding husband with whom she will feel confident and quiet.
And if you already consider your admirer as the future partner in life, try to find out some important things for the future family and relations. Remember that while telling you something, the man by all means tells you and about himself too because even if there is a question about someone of his friends, about even if it is not concerning directly in him, anyhow he shows the attitude Very important are more detailed conversations about the most key topics for you to find out, how the man you consider to become your husband concerns on marriage and on things which trouble you, and then compare his conclusions with own and think, whether it will be possible to you to agree. After all, if it will be found out, whether it is necessary to you to continue dating? If your main aims differ with the aims of your future husband, it is better to look for another one, because after marriage the differences between views will become more evident. And, of course, you should not forget about own plans and dreams too.
The future couples should have similar views in such topics as money, career and a way of life then the future marriage rather possibly, will be successful. Try to go shopping together and pay attention, whether he is inclined to bargain, whether the price defines all his purchases, beginning from the cheapest lighter and finishing wines he drinks? And here already, analyzing the received answers, draw conclusions and imagine the future life. If the man refuses to pay for the pleasures he can get, so he with the same reluctance will not pay and for yours too.
Moreover, when you get married, he would want to dispose and your means too. It is quite good to find out whether your future husband will prefer to spend time in the bosom of the family or will spend all time at work of entertaining himself? What are his plans concerning career? Whether he considers, that the woman should work or to do housekeeping and to spend time with children? If you wish to promote, by all means, and he persistently sees the future wife exclusively in a role of the housewife, it is better to leave after the first appointment and not to injure mentality each other or even before wedding to refuse own plans.
It may become a problem for the future family and a difference in position in a society too. The man often wishes to be equal to other men and women of the family. Define which parts of the life your man is not going to change. Estimate his food preferences, entertainments, a hobby, a choice of friends, habits and a manner to wear. And if something categorically does not suit you already, be ready that many of his habits are insuperable, so accept it entirely now, or leave your illusions that you can alter your future husband's character!
Try to get how your potential husband behaves if your future family has hard times which, unfortunately, can happen in our life. Ask him as he lived when was the student when searched for work or had hard times without money. Keep in mind that if hard times will return, you are expected by the same. If he comes from a poor family, most likely he always aspires to "survive" and economically to concern the money. If, on the contrary, his parents were people with prosperity, and he perceived money as due, his expenses can be absolutely unpredictable. To marry is much easier, than to manage to build a. So, maybe, yet it is not late, it is necessary to look for the person with whom you will connect both general views, and the general interests?